I want to blog Beccah from Comfort Woman by Nora Okja Keller this week. This story is very Asian. There are a lot of people in Asia that believe some people can deliver messages back and forth from our world to the other world (hell or heaven). I have not personally met one yet, but my aunt did. She told me that it was unbelievable because the medium or psychic was able to tell something that only she and her mother know. My aunt was first led to a dark room where a lot of candles were lighted up. Like Auntie Reno said in the story that atmosphere was just as important as ability. (Keller 199) After asking some question to my aunt, the psychic then started to prepare the summon ceremony. The psychic casted some spells and burned some yellow papers. Next thing my aunt heard was the conversation of the psychic to the guards from the other world. The psychic politely requested the guard to bring my aunt’s mom to her body so that my aunt can talk to her. Sometimes the guard will refuse the request, but my aunt was lucky. My aunt said, few minutes later, the psychic’s body started to shake and it lasted for a minute or two. Next thing was the when my aunt got shocked. The psychic was changed to a low voice and called my aunt by her nickname. The nickname that was given to her by her mom when she was young, no one knows that but she and her mom. That was their secret.
I was confused how the Daughter treated her mother. “I loved my mother during the normal time. She laughed and sang songs she made up. Instead of telling me to clear my papers and books off the table for dinner, she’d sing it to me.” (Keller 194) It looks like a happy family scene to me. The Daughter was enjoying the time with her mother. However, she mentioned that this was when her mother is normal. Unfortunately, her mother was abnormal for most of the time. It was claiming by Aunt Reno that the spirit of the Mother had left the body and filled up with other people’s spirit. (Keller 194) When these moments came, the Daughter seemed like not liking her mother anymore. The Daughter locked the mother in the room; sometimes even yelled at her mother. (Keller 194)
“I killed your father.” (Kelly 192) I was shocked when I read this in the first paragraph of the story. The Mother was confessing to her daughter that she killed her husband. “Shh, Mommy,” the Daughter said. “Don’t start.” (Kelly 192) Why did the Daughter stop her mother? Was that because the Daughter knows that her mother was talking nonsense? Or it is just that the Daughter can’t stand her mother’s craziness anymore. I think it is the latter one because she mentioned in the story that she was angry at her mother not because of her mother’s confess, but because she was slipping into one of her trances. I think she was lonely and she was trapped in the dilemma of losing her father at young age. She was mad. Because she has to take care of her mother and she doesn’t have someone to take care of her and give her love. Time after time, she started to ignore and avoid her mother. In the extreme extend, she even wished that her mother can pass away so that she will be free from taking care of her crazy mother. “She leaned toward me, and she bent forward to kiss or hug me, I could see vein of white hair running through her black braid.” “Before she could touch me, I pushed away from the table, turning toward the sink to prepare the shrimp for the annual mean that made my mother’s hands crack open and bleed.” (Kelly 202)
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Hey,
Your blog post has some very interesting opinions about the story. First of all, I find some good information from your blog about your aunt's spiritual experience. I personally do not have an opinion on this subject. To be honest, this kind of phenomenon is very hard to explained, and I don't think anyone has ever been able to explained it. A lot of time, I just try to use logical reasoning to disprove it which worked. But sometimes, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't explain it. So even though I like to use science to explain everything, I sometimes have to give up on this types of things.
Another thing I want to talk about is your opinion on Beccah. You seem to believe strongly that Beccah dislikes her mother. I can understand where you are coming from. Sometimes, I would be embarrassed too if someone close to me does something crazy or stupid. However, embarrassment and dislike are two different things. I think Beccah definitely loves her mother, if not very much even. First of all, the reason why this story even exists is because the author (which is supposed to be Beccah in this story) loves her mother very much. And therefore, even after her mother passed away, she still tried to find out about her mother past. Secondly, I find a lot of details with in this short excerpt of the story about their relationships. It appears that they really love each other and even in her mother normal times.
Anyway, everyone has their own reason and opinion which I respect. Your thoughts bring new things to table which is always welcomed, peace !!! =D
Hey there,
I agree with you that people feel embarrassed for stupid things their close friends did. In this case, it is Beccah’s mother. Her mother should be the closest person to her in the world since she raised her up alone after her father dead. However, she does not seem to like her mother that much in most of the time because her mother’s spirit was taken away. I was actually mad in the last scene where she pushed her mother away when her mother wanted to hug her. On top of it, she did not even care when her mother got hurt. “She leaned toward me, and she bent forward to kiss or hug me, I could see vein of white hair running through her black braid.” “Before she could touch me, I pushed away from the table, turning toward the sink to prepare the shrimp for the annual mean that made my mother’s hands crack open and bleed.” (Kelly 202) How dare she do that to her parents?!
I do agree with you that she still loves her mother, but it is very conditional. “I loved my mother during the normal time. She laughed and sang songs she made up. Instead of telling me to clear my papers and books off the table for dinner, she’d sing it to me.” (Keller 194) This definitely seems like a happy family and she seems to like it very much. However, when I reread the description of this scene, I found the phrase “normal time” very annoying. This is because her mother was abnormal for most of the time. It maybe because of the cultural difference, but we do believe that parent – children relationship should be unconditional.
Arvin, I thought the part about your aunt communicating through a psychic was really interesting. It made the story more believable to me. In the later part of your blog you questioned whether or not the daughter loved her mother. I do think that Beccah loved her mother dearly. I think Beccah was protective or her mother. It would be extremely difficult to watch your mother, especially as a child, doing these crazy things like dancing until you pass out or talking to dead people. I think, under the circumstances, Beccah handled the situation with great maturity and care. She did not want to judge her mother, but she couldn't help it for some reason. I think Beccah recognized that if she couldn't help it, even loving her mother as she didn, that the rest of the world would judge as well.
As you say, there are a lot of people in Asia who believe that some people can deliver messages back and forth from our world to the other world. Actually, I will never try to go to those people and ask them to predict my future, but I can understand that some people will really do that. I feel it's something like the religion. It exists, because you believe in it, while it doesn't exist, if you don't believe in it. It truely has the power is not that important, but the belief it brings is essential for human beings who believe in it.
You also discussed that whether the girl loves her mother or not. In my opinion, the daughter loves her mother a lot. That's why she cares about her so much and prevent her from harms from the others. Nevertheless, I think she also feels confused and suffered from her relationship with her mother as well. Her mother is crazy that they cannot communicate well. And having a mother like Akiko will definitely embarrass her in the public, such as her school classmates and neighbors. Still, she never gives up her mother, which shows how much she loves her mother.
As you say, there are a lot of people in Asia who believe that some people can deliver messages back and forth from our world to the other world. Actually, I will never try to go to those people and ask them to predict my future, but I can understand that some people will really do that. I feel it's something like the religion. It exists, because you believe in it, while it doesn't exist, if you don't believe in it. It truely has the power is not that important, but the belief it brings is essential for human beings who believe in it.
You also discussed that whether the girl loves her mother or not. In my opinion, the daughter loves her mother a lot. That's why she cares about her so much and prevent her from harms from the others. Nevertheless, I think she also feels confused and suffered from her relationship with her mother as well. Her mother is crazy that they cannot communicate well. And having a mother like Akiko will definitely embarrass her in the public, such as her school classmates and neighbors. Still, she never gives up her mother, which shows how much she loves her mother.
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